How Was Your Year?
It’s only 3 days left till the start of the New Year.
Do you tend to think and reflect back on what has happened in the previous one?
I must admit, I don’t often do so.
I tend to concentrate on what I want the next year to bring, how I can improve and achieve more.
But this year a lot of things happened in my life and in the lives of my loved ones.
My father in law lost his leg in a bizarre accident..
My grandma passed away...
My husband was working away from home almost half of the year...
Why am I sharing all this with you?
It’s simply because I want to help you get a clearer perspective on some things.
Sometimes horrible things happen in your live… Unbelievable ones!
Things that is so difficult to move forward from… Moving away from your pain.
Some people might tell you to forget it and move on.
Some people will tell you that this is a normal part of your life.
And I’d like to tell you that
Pain is what you make of it!
I might get some stick for that but if you’ve followed me for a while you’d know that I don’t give a hoot about this.
Moving away from pain doesn’t mean being arrogant.
Or cold hearted
Or running away.
It simply means that you choose to deal with it in a way that serves YOU!
I know you’ve been through something really difficult in your life
And you probably often revisit that place in your head.
So often when you only concentrate on the negative aspects of your existence – you never get the chance to see the positive ones.
So to give you an example of how you can switch the image of any situation in your head (and not make it unworthy) I’ll paraphrase the above statements:
My father in law lost his leg in a bizarre accident but he’s alive and now spending more time with his loved ones than ever.
My grandma passed away but she’s no longer suffering the pain of not being able to remember situations or people in her life.
My husband worked away from home for almost half of the year but I got more organized when I had to deal with a pretty much everything myself.
I could easily sink into all the depressive thoughts about what went wrong
I could make the choice of thinking what went right!
Does it make it easier?
Maybe yes, maybe no.
However it makes it damn less challenging when you’re faced with a similar situation.
There’s no worse judge of you than you!
So if you choose to reflect back on the last year, try incorporating these ideas:
1. If you’ve had a lot of negative experience, instead of dwelling on it, ask yourself, what did you learn or gain there (there’s ALWAYS something)
2. What are the changes that you’ve made in your life? How do they affect you?
3. What are the things that you know you DON’T want to happen again and what can you do to prevent that?
Your own life is an amazing teacher! It gives you more information and lessons than you can ever gain with any education.
When you look back – don’t do it from a place of anger! Do it from a place of love, fulfillment and achievement instead! You’d be amazed at the results
So what can you change in the next year to make it better?
To create more deserving life for yourself and put your troubles to rest?
Let’s have a chat about your perspective of where do you feel you’re still struggling and who knows, it might be that missing puzzle of your life?
All my love
Love, Peace and Laughter