But I Can’t Do It!!!
You've set yourself a goal, right?
You said to yourself - That's it! This time I'm going to do it! I know what it takes and I'm going to give everything that I've got.
However, the question here is - do you REALLY know what you want?
Is it your dream? Is it your purpose? Did you decided on that goal because of YOU?
How often do you find yourself in the struggle of achieving what you thought you wanted only to realise that that voice inside your head that was giving you ideas wasn't in fact your own voice?
To paint a clearer picture let's discuss one of the most talked about topic - weight loss.
And what I’d like to start with is that I’d never encourage ANYONE to lose weight (unless we’re talking about specific health issue but that’s whole lot of other conversations)
This will my golden 3 rules and questions that you should ALWAYS ask yourself when you decide to do that.
1. Why do I want to lose weight? – What is my utter motive? Am I trying to change my shape because I can’t bear to look myself in the mirror? Is my wish to do so triggered by a comment by someone else?
2. How would my life change if I lost weight? – And let’s get real honest here! And I’m here to tell you that those 5-10lbs that you’re planning on losing aren’t going make the tiniest difference unless you learn to accept yourself as you are right now. No changes come from a place of self hatred. Why? Because you’d NEVER see the positive change even when you get there. Nothing amazing has ever been created if approached from a place of loathing and negative emotions. Whatever change that comes your way would never be enough, YOU would never be enough.
3. Can I accept that I deserve the best? – Now this is the core and hard truth. And it all boils down to honesty and transparency.
Do you believe that you deserve amazing things in your life?
Do you believe that you’re meant to live a life with as less struggle in it as possible?
Do you feel like if the majority of your life is going as smoothly as possible you’re actually betraying someone else in your life?
It might be really hard to believe that but we sometimes tend to follow the steps of our loved ones not because we don’t know that’s wrong, but because that’s the only strong bond that we might feel towards them. And if we do end up doing something different we might feel that we break that connection and we try to stick with it for as long as possible.
Be honest with yourself! First and foremost! Sometimes you might reveal a lot of pain and anger and doubt and confusion. And it’ll hurt like a b.tch!
But once you’ve brought those up to the surface and you’ve conquered your fears you’d find your way to loving yourself and accepting yourself.
And then ask yourself the question again – Do I REALLY want to lose weight?
All my love
Love, Peace and Laughter